Staying Grounded in Times of Change and Uncertainty

In a world that’s constantly shifting, staying grounded can feel like an elusive goal. Whether it’s navigating personal transitions, societal upheaval, or global uncertainty, it’s natural to feel overwhelmed. However, with the right mindset and practices, you can remain centered even in the face of life’s unpredictable changes. Here are key strategies for staying grounded during uncertain times.

1. Focus on What You Can Control

One of the most unsettling aspects of change is the loss of control. However, it’s crucial to shift your focus to what you can influence. Identify areas of your life where you have power – your daily routines, your self-care habits, and how you respond to challenges. Taking charge of these aspects can provide a sense of stability.

For example, even when external circumstances are out of your control, establishing a regular routine – such as a morning ritual or evening wind-down practice – creates a sense of normalcy. It grounds you in the present moment, allowing you to approach challenges with greater calm.

2. Embrace Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a powerful tool for staying present amidst chaos. It encourages you to focus on the here and now rather than ruminating on the past or worrying about the future. When uncertainty looms, practicing mindfulness through meditation, deep breathing exercises, or simply paying attention to your surroundings can help you stay calm and centered.

Engaging in mindful activities like journaling, yoga, or even taking a mindful walk can reconnect you with your body and environment, reducing feelings of anxiety and stress. The key is to be intentional about where you place your attention, bringing yourself back to the moment whenever fear or uncertainty arise.

3. Cultivate Resilience

Resilience isn’t about avoiding challenges but learning to bounce back from them. In times of change, resilience is your greatest asset. One way to cultivate resilience is by reframing the way you view change – seeing it not as a threat but as an opportunity for growth. Each challenge you face can teach you valuable lessons and help you develop inner strength.

To build resilience, practice self-compassion during difficult times. Accept that you may feel vulnerable or uncertain and remind yourself that it’s okay to take things one step at a time. Lean on supportive relationships and seek guidance when needed. Resilience thrives when nurtured by connection and self-kindness.

4. Stay Connected

Isolation can magnify feelings of fear and uncertainty. Even if circumstances prevent you from connecting in person, make an effort to maintain relationships with friends, family, and community. Talking through your concerns and listening to others’ experiences foster a sense of shared humanity, which can be incredibly grounding.

Social support helps us feel anchored during times of uncertainty. Sometimes, simply knowing that you’re not navigating change alone can provide immense comfort.

5. Practice Gratitude

When the world feels unstable, gratitude can serve as a stabilising force. Taking time each day to acknowledge the things you’re thankful for, no matter how small, shifts your mindset from fear to appreciation. Gratitude helps you focus on what’s working in your life, counterbalancing the weight of uncertainty.

Try incorporating a daily gratitude practice, such as writing down three things you’re grateful for each morning or evening. This habit encourages a positive perspective, grounding you in the good amidst the unknown.

6. Accept Uncertainty as Part of Life

Finally, it’s important to remember that change is inevitable. Uncertainty is an intrinsic part of the human experience. Accepting that some things will always remain out of your control can be liberating. Rather than resisting change, aim to flow with it.

When you embrace the unpredictability of life with openness, you build inner flexibility. You realize that while you may not be able to control every outcome, you can control how you respond to it – with resilience, mindfulness, and grace.

Conclusion

Staying grounded in times of change and uncertainty requires mindfulness, resilience, and a willingness to adapt. By focusing on what you can control, practicing mindfulness, cultivating resilience, staying connected with others, and embracing gratitude, you can find your center even in the most challenging circumstances. Life will always bring unpredictability, but by remaining grounded, you empower yourself to navigate these changes with strength and calm.

Five Ways to Tap Into Other People’s Wisdom

Getting other people to share their thoughts, feelings, and perspectives with you will help you learn, grow, and become a better person.

Early in his career, Jeff Wetzler encountered an idea from his mentor, Chris Argyris, that forever changed the way he looked at himself and those around him: More often than not, highly educated, successful people are actually the least likely to learn what they most need to know.

Why? The people around us are walking around with valuable insights and information that could help us personally and professionally. But in order to access it, we have to cultivate a tolerance for not knowing.

Over the past 30 years, Jeff has consulted to top executives at Fortune 500 companies around the world, overseen the training of thousands of teachers, managed teams of people with diverse backgrounds and skill sets, even built a thriving organisation from the ground up. Time and again, he has seen just how often people fail to learn from those around them, and how costly this problem is to relationships, teams, and organisations. 

But he’s also seen that when people do manage to overcome this problem, it opens up whole new levels of learning, growth, and connection. Leaders he worked with described the immense relief of finally breaking out of long-standing patterns, the lightbulb moment of discovering the key insight that had kept them in the dark without even realising it. He watched relationships shift from sources of conflict and anxiety to mutual understanding and collaboration.

What’s more, he discovered that learning what others really think, feel, and know is a concrete skill set – one that anyone can learn and apply to their life – at work, at home, and in their communities. Here are five steps that can increase your self-awareness, help you make smarter decisions, and bring new levels of depth and meaning to your relationships.

1. Choose curiosity

Without the ability to get truly curious about what you don’t know, you’ll never ask the questions you need to find out. 

Each of us is constantly telling ourselves stories about our own lives and the people in them. Our friend isn’t returning our calls because they’re secretly mad at us. Our coworker keeps missing deadlines because they just assume we will pick up the slack. We loop and loop, working ourselves into a tizzy of judgment and resentment and anxiety, so certain about our own perspective that we don’t get curious about what we might not be seeing.

Choosing curiosity is all about breaking out of these certainty loops. We tend to default to certainty instead of curiosity due to a combination of psychological biases and cultural conditioning that make it feel more comfortable to stick to what we (think) we already know. The problem is that we forget that the story we are telling ourselves is only one of many possibilities, and our story may be very different from someone else’s. Curiosity interrupts this default mode and slows our thinking enough to consider what we don’t yet know.

The next time you catch yourself feeling certain, try injecting more curiosity into your thinking. What information about this person or situation might you be overlooking? How might you be inadvertently contributing to the very problem you’re concerned about? What challenges might the other person be up against that you can’t see? Deliberately asking yourself these questions fires up your genuine curiosity and motivates you to discover what others have to teach you.

2 .Make it safe

Decades of research by Harvard Business School professor Amy Edmondson and others have demonstrated that in order for people to speak up, they need to believe that you will not judge, shame, or punish them for sharing openly with you. This is all the more important if you are interacting across lines of difference, such as age, race, or gender, all of which can intensify the risks (real or perceived) of speaking candidly.

The key here is that it’s up to you to make it as safe, easy, and appealing as possible for the people in your life to speak honestly. If in past interactions you have reacted negatively or judgmentally, you have to work extra hard to make it safe going forward. But even if you haven’t, it’s very likely that the other person has experienced shame or punishment from others for speaking honestly and still feels unsafe at some level. While it’s easy to feel like they “should” feel safe with you, it’s far more effective to take extra steps to ensure they actually are. 

To make it safe, communicate that you can handle whatever they have to say and – this part is essential – won’t hold them responsible for any emotional reactions you have. The fear of hurting, upsetting, or angering you is the number one reason people don’t tell you what they really think or feel. Identifying this fear up front is often the permission slip people need to start sharing. But remember – once you make this promise, you have to keep it. 

Jeff once experienced the power of this step during a progress meeting with an investor. Before he shared his update, she opened by explicitly stating that she didn’t expect things to be perfect and actually wanted to hear about what wasn’t going as planned with the project. This simple move dissolved any assumptions he had about what she wanted to hear and allowed her to feel safe sharing less-than-shiny information with her, information that was critical for her ability to get a full picture of the state of the project. The result? They both left the conversation with a more realistic sense of the status of the project as well as deeper trust in their relationship.

3. Pose quality questions

Foundation set, it’s time to start asking questions. Unfortunately, most adults ask far fewer questions than we should, and the ones we do are often motivated by a desire other than learning and understanding, such as convincing, proving, blaming, or even attacking the other person – even if we don’t realise it. Yes-or-no questions (“don’t you agree?”) or those that put people on the defensive (“what were you thinking?”) do not produce any valuable information and can actually shut down conversations.

By contrast, quality questions help you learn something from the other person. They signal true curiosity, reflecting a genuine intent to learn from and understand the other person – not to prove a point or influence or fix them. They invite honesty by being clear and direct, with no alternate agenda. Quality questions tap into the other person’s story to surface the underlying meanings, reasons, emotions, and experiences. 

Questions can be used for a variety of purposes. They can help you identify what someone really cares about (what matters most to you in this situation?) or surface the logic beneath their beliefs or actions (can you walk me through your thought process?). You can use questions to enlist someone’s help in solving a problem (I’m stuck. Can you help me think this through?) or to find holes in your own reasoning (what do you think I might be missing?). Understanding your own goal for asking the question is essential to choosing the right one for the job.

4. Listen to learn

How we listen determines how much we learn and how deeply we connect. But while 96% of people think of themselves as good listeners, research finds that we hear (and retain) only a sliver of what people are really telling us. It’s easy to feel like you’re listening, when what you’re really doing is waiting quietly until it’s your turn to respond or scanning the other person’s words for holes and ammunition you can use to defend yourself or rebuff their argument.

Whenever you catch yourself doing this, remind yourself that your only goal is to understand what the other person is trying to share with you. Everything else – yes, even your very best counterpoints – must take a seat in order to free up the attentional resources you need to listen for multiple levels of meaning simultaneously.

Most people only listen through a single channel: the content of what others say. But to really listen to learn, you have to pay attention to two other channels. The second is emotion – the feelings, needs, and desires beneath the words. And third is action – what are they trying to do by telling you this? And what are they trying to get you to do? Only by listening to all three at once can you fully understand what someone is trying to express.

Jeff recently had a challenging conversation with a colleague that left him feeling upset and a little indignant. Luckily, he had recorded the conversation (with permission, of course), so he went back and listen for emotion and action. Jeff was stunned – he had been so focused on the content of his colleague’s critiques that he hadn’t noticed the edge of fear in her voice or that what she was really trying to do wasn’t to criticise him, but to seek reassurance that she was still committed to the project. Once Jeff understood what his colleague had really been saying, they were able to have a much more productive conversation and move forward with the project from a stronger foundation.

5. Reflect and reconnect

Lastly, you have to process what you heard in a way that really allows you to learn and grow from it. You might be tempted to immediately begin fixing or solving or even apologising. But this is when it pays to pause and take a beat so you can reflect on what you heard and what it means.

To do this, ask yourself these three questions: 

• How might what I heard revise my story about the situation?
• Based on what I heard, what action steps can I take? 
• How might what I heard challenge my deeper worldviews, assumptions, or ways of being?

Once you’ve reflected, share what you’ve learned and what you plan to do next with the person. This final step profoundly shapes the future of your relationship with them. When someone has taken the risk of sharing their honest thoughts or feelings with you, they want to know that it was worthwhile. If you don’t reconnect, it can leave the other person feeling unappreciated or, worse, used. But when you take the time to share what you’ve learned, you open the door to deeper connection and ongoing learning that benefits you both.

When Jeff came back to share what he learned from their conversation and how it had impacted him, his colleague was moved and shared even more about her hopes for the project and her desire to continue partnering with Jeff. From there, they were able to have a much more productive (and honest) conversation about key aspects they had previously struggled to get aligned on. They both left feeling heard and motivated to keep working and learning together.

In combination, these steps are nothing short of a superpower – one that anyone can use to transform their relationships and unlock unprecedented learning and growth in every area of their life.

How to Protect and Reclaim Your Energy: A Guide to Thriving in a Demanding World

 

In today’s fast-paced world, energy often feels like an elusive resource—stretched thin by constant demands, distractions, and stressors. Yet protecting and reclaiming your energy is essential for not only surviving but thriving. Whether it’s emotional, physical, or mental energy, how you manage it can make all the difference in how you show up in your personal and professional life. Here are some strategies to protect your energy and reclaim it when it's been depleted.

1. Set Boundaries and Learn to Say No

One of the most powerful ways to protect your energy is by setting firm boundaries. This involves clearly communicating your limits to others and being consistent about enforcing them. Start by identifying the areas in your life where you feel drained—these might be related to relationships, work, or personal obligations. Once you’ve recognised the source of the energy drain, don’t be afraid to say no.

Saying no doesn’t make you selfish; it ensures that you have enough energy for the things that matter most. Each time you say no to something that depletes you, you’re saying yes to protecting your own well-being.

2. Practice Mindful Energy Management

Mindful energy management is about recognising when and how your energy fluctuates throughout the day. Pay attention to the activities and environments that energise you versus those that leave you feeling exhausted. For example, you might notice that certain tasks like creative work are best done in the morning when your energy is highest, while routine tasks can be done in the afternoon when your energy tends to dip.

Schedule your day to align with these natural energy rhythms. Taking short breaks, meditating, or practicing deep breathing can also help you recharge between tasks. Being mindful of how your energy ebbs and flows will allow you to optimise productivity and maintain balance.

3. Limit Exposure to Negative Influences

Negative people, toxic environments, and excessive media consumption can drain your emotional and mental reserves. Protecting your energy involves reducing your exposure to negativity whenever possible. This might mean distancing yourself from people who consistently bring you down or setting limits on how much news and social media you consume.

Instead, surround yourself with people and environments that uplift and inspire you. Create a space for positive input by engaging in activities that foster creativity, learning, and joy.

4. Prioritise Rest and Recovery

Your energy is a finite resource, and without regular periods of rest and recovery, you will quickly burn out. Prioritise sleep, as it is one of the most important factors in maintaining your energy levels. A good night’s sleep allows your body and mind to recover from the day’s activities and prepares you for the day ahead.

But rest isn’t just about sleep. Incorporating restorative practices like yoga, stretching, or spending time in nature can also help recharge your energy. Recovery also involves giving yourself permission to take time off when needed—whether that’s taking a mental health day or just slowing down for a weekend of relaxation.

5. Fuel Your Body and Mind

Your energy levels are heavily influenced by the food you eat and the care you give your body. A diet that nourishes you with whole, nutrient-dense foods will provide sustained energy throughout the day. Processed foods, sugar, and excessive caffeine, on the other hand, can lead to energy crashes and burnout.

In addition to diet, consider how regular physical activity can help you reclaim your energy. Exercise doesn’t have to be intense to be effective – activities like walking, swimming, or gentle yoga can increase blood flow, improve mood, and boost energy levels.

6. Reconnect with Your Purpose

Feeling drained is often a symptom of being disconnected from what truly matters to you. Reclaiming your energy can sometimes be as simple as realigning with your purpose. Reflect on what lights you up—what gives you a sense of meaning, joy, and fulfillment? When you make time for activities and pursuits that align with your core values and passions, you naturally tap into an energy source that is deeply replenishing.

Take time regularly to assess whether your daily actions are aligned with your larger goals and aspirations. When you are living with purpose, you will find that your energy flows more freely and abundantly.

Conclusion

Protecting and reclaiming your energy requires conscious effort, but it’s well worth the investment. By setting boundaries, practicing mindful energy management, reducing exposure to negativity, prioritising rest, nourishing your body, and reconnecting with your purpose, you can take control of your energy levels. This not only helps you maintain balance and productivity but also allows you to live a more joyful and fulfilling life.

Your energy is precious—treat it that way.

The pros & cons of a high-fat diet

The high-fat diet, often synonymous with ketogenic (keto) and low-carb diets, has gained popularity as a potential approach for weight loss and overall health improvement. But, like any dietary trend, it has its advantages and disadvantages.

Pros of a High-Fat Diet

1. Weight Loss and Fat Burning: High-fat diets, especially the ketogenic diet, can promote weight loss. By drastically reducing carbohydrate intake and increasing fat consumption, the body shifts into a state called ketosis, where it burns fat for energy instead of carbohydrates. Many people report sustained weight loss and reduced hunger on this diet.
2. Improved Blood Sugar Levels: For people with insulin resistance or type 2 diabetes, high-fat, low-carb diets can help improve blood sugar control. By minimising carbohydrate intake, the body requires less insulin to manage blood sugar levels, which may reduce insulin resistance over time.
3. Enhanced Mental Clarity and Focus: Ketones, produced from the breakdown of fats, are a potent source of energy for the brain. Many followers of high-fat diets report increased mental clarity, better focus, and even enhanced mood as a result of consistently high ketone levels.
4. Better Heart Health (Potentially): High-fat diets, when done correctly (e.g., focusing on healthy fats like avocados, nuts, and olive oil), can increase levels of HDL (good) cholesterol and reduce triglycerides, both of which are beneficial for heart health. Studies also suggest that such diets may help reduce inflammation, a key contributor to heart disease.

Cons of a High-Fat Diet

1. Nutrient Deficiencies: High-fat diets often involve a significant reduction in the intake of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains, which are vital sources of fiber, vitamins, and minerals. This can lead to nutrient deficiencies over time if the diet is not carefully planned. Fiber, in particular, is crucial for digestive health, and its absence can cause issues like constipation.
2. Risk of Unhealthy Fats: Not all fats are created equal. High-fat diets that rely on saturated and trans fats (from processed foods, fatty meats, or fried items) can increase the risk of heart disease, stroke, and other health problems. It’s crucial to prioritise healthy fats, such as those found in fish, avocados, and nuts, rather than unhealthy, processed fats.
3. Difficulty Sustaining Long-Term: High-fat diets can be restrictive, making them difficult to stick to over the long term. The dramatic reduction in carbohydrate intake can lead to cravings for bread, pasta, and sweets. For many, maintaining this lifestyle can feel socially and emotionally isolating, as it often requires avoiding common foods at gatherings.
4. Initial Side Effects (Keto Flu): Many people experience the so-called "keto flu" when first starting a high-fat diet, especially keto. Symptoms can include fatigue, nausea, dizziness, headaches, and irritability as the body adjusts to burning fat for fuel instead of carbohydrates. While these symptoms are usually temporary, they can be discouraging for those just starting out.

Conclusion

A high-fat diet can offer numerous benefits, particularly for weight loss, improved blood sugar control, and mental clarity. However, it is not without its drawbacks, such as the risk of nutrient deficiencies, challenges with sustainability, and potential health risks if unhealthy fats are consumed. Careful planning and attention to the quality of fats are essential for making this diet a healthy, long-term lifestyle choice.